Ask HN: An advice that changed your life?

Re:Ask HN: An advice that changed your life? by afarrell on Saturday October 29, 2022 @04:32AM (#33382152)

“Leave someone better than you found them.”

It led to me staying faaaaar too long in an unhealthy relationship, trying to cure problems that I imagined myself responsible for causing. Sometimes you need to forgive yourself and move on. The Pottery Barn Rule and the Boy Scout Rule apply to things, not people.

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Re:Ask HN: An advice that changed your life? by bnjemian on Saturday October 29, 2022 @05:19AM (#33382384)

I once took a golf lesson when I was a kid and, in learning about the divot removal tool, was told a similar one about the way to operate on a golf course:

"Leave it better than you found it."

I couldn't care less about golf, but this one stuck with me because it speaks to environmental stewardship. It's like a constructive riff on the mantra for when you're out in Nature: "Don't leave a trace."

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Re:Ask HN: An advice that changed your life? by afarrell on Saturday October 29, 2022 @06:37AM (#33382783)

Right. You can control the rubbish in the natural environment. You cannot control the rubbish in another person's worldview.

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Re:Ask HN: An advice that changed your life? by nicolas_t on Sunday October 30, 2022 @08:44AM (#33393989)

Yup, great advice for a lot of contexts but not for relationships. This has been a hard lesson to learn and I've wasted 5 years of my life because of this.

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