When you say something like this to a friend, you're giving them power and control over you because if they decide to make you a criminal, they can.

That's not what trust is supposed to mean between friends.

If someone stabs a friend they can't claim that since it's between friends, it's ok.

This is how you know laws such as what you're discussing are ridiculous.

Does it make you an asshole to crack a rude gay joke in front of someone who is gay? yes. Should it be criminal? absolutely not.