Re:An ode to that “coffee friend”
by mixmastamyk on Thursday October 27, 2022 @12:45AM
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Yep, we had a few geeks on the football team, no one was bothered.
I think the governing principle is that people want to belong to a social group, and to achieve that belonging, they need to be as un-like other social groups as possible, to make their affiliation clear.
In other words, cool kids are fine with hanging out with un-cool kids, if it can be done in a way that does not involve un-coolness at all, so they don't become un-cool by association.
I remember of a kid who was nerdier than me, but he didn't fit into the usual nerdy social anxiety and he also did boxing as a hobby so he was ok.
I concluded that it was not really about interest.