> I'm really tired of anti-car advocates that have just a single idea: Make people too miserable to use a car, and maybe then there will be less cars.

Agreed. Trying to drive change by making others miserable is hardly ever a winning strategy.

Instead, we need to make it easy, convenient and fun to both get around without a car and to reduce how far one needs to go in day to day situations (i.e. have lots of small shops near housing).

That will make many people prefer to not use cars (most people don't actually love driving) and those who want to drive can still do whatever they like but it'll be a much smaller population.