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Re:Your account is permanently suspended by HeyLaughingBoy on Thursday October 20, 2022 @09:08AM (#33274109)

You have to be aware of the origins of the stress and they are likely many. Even here on HN I find myself making the decision to not continue to engage with someone who's responded to one of my posts because I can already predict it's going to race down a rabbit hole of pointless arguments. It's simply not worth talking to some people.

I think part of the problem is that people don't realize that a lot of what they are doing is contributing to their own stress.

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Re:Your account is permanently suspended by manimino on Thursday October 20, 2022 @09:54AM (#33274724)

This is a good policy in general. Say everything you want to say in one comment, and do not reply back to anything. Replies are where people start getting defensive.

Even if the discussion is friendly, once you've said your piece, it is usually best to let others reply. The discussion gets better the more unique perspectives are in it.

Same goes for meetings, ideally.

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Re:Your account is permanently suspended by lapcat on Thursday October 20, 2022 @10:16AM (#33274995)

> This is a good policy in general. Say everything you want to say in one comment, and do not reply back to anything. Replies are where people start getting defensive.

Easier said than done, especially when a reply criticizes you, but this is probably right. I've greatly regretted many HN back-and-forth exchanges. It almost never ends well.

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Re:Your account is permanently suspended by knewter on Thursday October 20, 2022 @11:09AM (#33275902)

I prefer ugly discourse

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