75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime will be spent by age 12

Re:75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime wi... by baryphonic on Tuesday October 18, 2022 @11:23PM (#33257196)

I'd echo this. My youngest is 5, and though we went through the terrible 2s through the f**ing 4s, it seems we've turned a corner at age 5. There's this sweet little kid who can start to control his emotions and frequently makes us laugh. In place of fits and tantrums we had for basically the past three years, we have someone who can take a breather and accept "no" for an answer.

The best part is all of the hugs, the I-love-you-Daddy-s, the endless curiosity (tonight's: "if you use Apple Pay, are they taking [cash] dollars out of your phone?") and a newfound recognition that other people with their own dignity and needs exist.

It is still a lot of work, but I love spending time with my kids and seeing them learn and grow into civilized people.

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Re:75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime wi... by TedDoesntTalk on Tuesday October 18, 2022 @11:42PM (#33257335)

Read “Setting Limits” by Robert Mackenzie if you still have problems with “no” and tantrums. I’ve read 10 parenting books and this is hands-down the best.

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Re:75% of the time we spend with our kids in our lifetime wi... by dotnet00 on Wednesday October 19, 2022 @12:35AM (#33257717)

I agree, although I'm not a parent, I babysat my niece a lot throughout. She's turning 6 in a few weeks and it's pretty great how much more "interactive" she can be now.

When they're much younger you constantly have to fret over them, but now she's learning to write, asks fun questions and overall the "spark" of being her own person is really visible.

While I used to enjoy babysitting earlier too, back then I still used to be glad to be done so I could rest and catch up on some hobbies while nowadays I usually feel pretty guilty having to leave.

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