I'm sorry that you consider it hostile to be exposed to the obvious truth that your incredibly self-motivated (you are a man after all) beliefs are the problem.
In the most unequal societies (Russia[0], India[1]) the tech industry is much closer to gender parity than in the west.
Sweden has gone further than any other nation on earth to be equitable across gendered lines yet remains extremely unequal in the actual working model. (In my former employer 14% of applicants were women, yet they constitute 20% of employed staff due to excessive D&I initiatives).
I should be self interested, we’re talking about competition for work. It would be death to roll over. Jobs are absolutely zero sum-
However my argument is backed by statistics, so I think you need to face the reality in front of you.
[0]: https://www.bbc.com/news/business-39579321
[1]: https://go.451research.com/women-in-tech-india-employment-tr...
To answer the question as coldly as I can:
1) Women are graduating from nearly all University programmes more than men.[0]
2) The role of Doctor is not as highly paid or prestigious as it used to be, at least in Europe.[1]
[0]: https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2021/11/08/whats-behin...
[1]: https://www.paragona.com/healthcare-jobseekers/where-would-y... ; cites a 70k average where a project manager will make an average of 99k: https://www.glassdoor.com/Salaries/stockholm-project-manager...