It's none of your business to tell someone that the way they perceive their racial identity is incorrect, especially when you're not even the same race as that person and do not understand what they've faced.

> Ironically, this is discriminatory to anyone else who has something to say on the topic.

Pointing out discrimination is not discrimination. Telling a marginalized person how they should view their own identity is not your place. Doubly so because you don't seem to understand the meaning of "discrimination" outside "someone told me I was wrong."

>Pointing out discrimination is not discrimination

Was I being discriminitory? Or are you referring to someone else?