I agree that often times it is a matter of moral weakness. If the family knows what the wishes of the dying are, but are scared or unwilling to carry them out, that is a moral failing. I know many people who have gone through this, and the family often regrets their choices and weaknesses after the death. They wish that they could have been stronger and tell the doctors that they can stop treating the patient.
Her being in hospital vs being at home was just decision to not die surrounded by nurses and doctors but by family, which is completely understandable and I would opt for it too in same situation.
The fact that even closest folks refused to ease suffering while shielding themselves with at-best dubious christianity-based moral stance of easing/skipping purgatory is just beyond my comprehension.
And yes I truly consider it their moral weakness and failure. Its not about killing in any way, but sedating enough to have their last moments filled with sanity and focus on family, and not screams of huge pain.
> And more importantly, what if the dying person is ok with suffering?
Now this part is complete bullshit, of course she didn't want to suffer, she had brighter moments when she was begging for painkillers. I presume you were never in situation where you suffered huge amount of pain continuously for at least many hours. I experienced it once, and it completely utterly breaks you down mentally. You are willing to do basically anything to make it stop - there is a reason why it is/was used so much to get any intel, at one point everybody breaks, its so overwhelming that people make up anything to make it stop.
I hope its a bit more clear, it was a complex situation to describe fully in few sentences.
I am not a religious person by anyone's description, but the choice here appears to be that of lesser evil. Final wish of a dying person ( along with their ability to govern their life ) here being that she did not want to die in a hospital. Wouldn't 'helping' her die break that wish? And more importantly, what if the dying person is ok with suffering?
<<Thus their moral weakness
It feels like the sentence is emotionally loaded. Is it a moral weakness to follow one's moral compass? I hear what you are saying, but you may want to consider that they do not want to make that decision, because their moral compass marks it as killing someone ( including some earthly jurisdictions ).