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Re:Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret? by jefftk on Friday October 07, 2022 @08:31AM (#33120312)
Let's say you have two advisors constantly giving you advice about what action to take next, and all you ever do is choose between them. Over time you might learn that one of them gives better advice in some situations and the other gives better advice in others. In this weird hypothetical, regret is noticing that you followed the advice of the wrong advisor for the situation, and it turned out especially poorly.

What's going on in your brain is a lot more complicated than this, but I think it's still a meaningful concept?

Re:Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret? by bheadmaster on Friday October 07, 2022 @09:10AM (#33120750)
In that particular example, regret would be justified, as it would be a remainder not to listen to the bad advisor.

However, if, at some point, both advisors decided to leave and never come back, and you started thinking about how one of them always gave you wrong advice, and regretting listening to him, then that regret is pointless.

Re:Ask HN: What's Your Biggest Regret? by goldenchrome on Friday October 07, 2022 @09:53PM (#33129117)
I also don’t believe in regret. For me, I’ve always listened to my gut and I’ve always made the right choice. I believe in the power of listening to your conscience. Since I’m so attuned to my conscience, if I make a mistake I catch it and take the next chance to rectify it before life moves on. I never allowed myself to feel regret even if it meant pushing myself way out of my comfort zone or disregarding the advice of someone who has a lot of influence on me. It helps that I’m highly disagreeable (in terms of the Big 5 personality traits).