How did I?

I have impulsive ADHD. It’s been a great tool but also got me into a lot of trouble.

I never thought I could change who I am. I am right but I could become aware of what I am an try to engage my bigger brain rather than the impulsive part.

Once I started investing in knowing me better rather than just allowing me to be on a seemingly uncontrollable train I could see how certain behaviors could be toxic to me and others.

And forgiving myself.

This mostly came through the enlightenment of having a son who has it and dealing with that whilst having ADHD. And that has been my greatest challenge and success.

Meta cognition. We talk with him about it in a way which isn’t blame or ‘you can’t do that!’ and while there is still a lot of support he is thriving.

Happy to chat offline too

Were you able to do this without prescription meds?

Yes however I looked into with a psychologist, a lot of research and decided to not.

Was based on looking back on my life with a new understanding and then working via therapy on aspects of being.

Can you be more specific about what you did?

Therapy. Identifying behaviors and which are coping mechanisms and those that add fuel to the fire.

Then becoming my own therapist and taking time to retrospectively view my actions and behaviors.

Taking action on those epiphanies and acts of vulnerable faith.

Example: with my new boss ‘I have ADHD and I can be brilliant and shit. When you feel me being shit just remind me of this email’

The old reaction would be I might get defensive or try and explain things away.

New reaction or treatment is like a new data point to help me retrain my framework.

Don’t take it as I’m a robot but I catch myself more often than I ever did and if I don’t I have a way of addressing it.

Meditation and understanding the principles of what this is trying to achieve.