Re:Why Men Are Hard to Help
by ryanwaggoner on Saturday October 01, 2022 @10:24PM
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As someone who divorced last year and is now in a relationship with a wonderful woman who identifies as a feminist: not all women are like this.
I’ve been open and emotional on multiple occasions with my partner, including to the point of crying. I’m open about my doubts, flaws, and weaknesses. It hasn’t diminished her desire or commitment in the slightest.
And if it did, I’d much rather lose her than lose myself like I did in my marriage.
Living your life behind a mask to earn the approval of someone else is the path to the life of “quiet desperation” that Thoreau wrote about. You’ll never feel loved and accepted for who you are, because you won’t have truly revealed yourself.
Why be with someone if you can’t be truly known by them?
I’ve been open and emotional on multiple occasions with my partner, including to the point of crying. I’m open about my doubts, flaws, and weaknesses. It hasn’t diminished her desire or commitment in the slightest.
And if it did, I’d much rather lose her than lose myself like I did in my marriage.
Living your life behind a mask to earn the approval of someone else is the path to the life of “quiet desperation” that Thoreau wrote about. You’ll never feel loved and accepted for who you are, because you won’t have truly revealed yourself.
Why be with someone if you can’t be truly known by them?