Remote means you don't need me physically present at a particular place (outside of knowing my location for tax purposes). It's pretty clear in the word "remote". If that's not always 100% the case, I would expect those expectations to me made clear during the hiring process, not after I've already come aboard.
Do you really think it would be unreasonable for someone to balk if you hired them for a remote role but then asked them to fly somewhere quarterly after they were onboarded?
Obviously people should take positions that align with their preferences however. Just be sure to specify upfront and be prepared to move if circumstances change.
I never attended any meet ups. I felt guilty about it but like you're saying here, I signed up to work remotely, not in an office ever.
I wouldn’t assume remote meant absolutely zero travel unless that was spelled out.