Honestly, it sounds like C++ is just a poor choice for this project, since you are not so interested in performance and you are a lot more interested in developer speed. It is not an example as to why Go is a good replacement for C++ in almost every project. This is a case where you could replace C++ with any business-logic-oriented programming language and you would be happier. It just so happens that your language of choice is Go (and presumably the tech lead's language of choice is C++ for some unknowable reason).

Also, you should not discount compiler speed completely. You, yourself, were upset at the speed of a compile process. All of your users are going to be waiting to get things done while the compiler is running, so you might want to do some math as to how much a 10% slowdown would cost in developer salaries. The makers of gcc, LLVM, and clang spend a lot of effort on improving the speed of their compiler to make sure that you have minimal time waste.