Re:The toll of dating app burnout
by LorenPechtel on Thursday September 01, 2022 @06:45PM
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It doesn't even take them preferring to be single.
The basic problem is the dating apps have made the pool so large that they can keep trying to get the top 10% and the well never runs dry. Thus they don't settle for what they can actually get.
Thus you get a lot of men with no dates and a lot of women who get dates with men they aren't good enough to actually hook. In reality both sides lose.
Re:The toll of dating app burnout
by MockObject on Friday September 02, 2022 @01:36PM
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The problem is thinking that all women share the same 90%! Sure, there are celebrities that many women would enjoy a date with, but there's tremendous variance in women's tastes, and most women's mates are fairly unattractive to many other women, for all sorts of reasons.
I don't think he was suggesting that those successful men are dating 8 women concurrently - rather, that the other seven women themselves would rather be single than date anybody in the "bottom" 90%. I've been married for a long time now, but this matched my observations from back when I was dating, and from everything I've heard, things have gotten much, much worse for men since I left the market.