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Re:The toll of dating app burnout by spoonjim on Thursday September 01, 2022 @01:47PM (#32680211)
If you want a relationship take everything lower priority than a relationship, transfer all that time to 50% the gym and 50% to going to physical places where you can talk to real women in meatspace.
Re:The toll of dating app burnout by DontchaKnowit on Thursday September 01, 2022 @04:21PM (#32682546)
Okay straight up: where tf does one go to meet people in person?

Like I just don't understand the scenario here?

Post college, it just feels like online data is the only real option.

Re:The toll of dating app burnout by fxtentacle on Thursday September 01, 2022 @06:45PM (#32684363)
Thing is, if you're looking happy and you have something interesting to say and you can listen to others sharing their story, then I wouldn't know any place where you don't meet people.

But here's some suggestions: bus stops, the park next to a bakery, library if you like books, art classes, sports events, museums, opera, larp if you like costumes, some cafes and cinemas have singles events, boat tours, zoo

I'd advise against clubs, beaches, or sauna if you don't feel confident yet, because those locations are unnecessary difficult.

And basically any place where something predictable happens that you and other people can stop and look at and talk about is easy. Like if you stand next to a construction site, girls who want to talk to you will have an obvious topic to initiate the conversation with.

Re:The toll of dating app burnout by m463 on Thursday September 01, 2022 @05:21PM (#32683399)
I think you might want to try meetup activities.

That said, you want to target the underachievers, not the people who are seriously doing the activities.

http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.pdf

Re:The toll of dating app burnout by LorenPechtel on Thursday September 01, 2022 @06:50PM (#32684399)
While I'm not on the market I have observed a problem with the meetup approach:

I hike. I've met multiple people out there who see it as a way to meet the opposite sex. Oops--every man I've met doing this is in male-dominated groups, every woman I've met doing this is in female-dominated groups. Difficulty levels, not sexism.

Re:The toll of dating app burnout by spoonjim on Thursday September 01, 2022 @05:54PM (#32683819)
The grocery store. The bus stop. The town hearing on a shopping mall operator asking for a permit to cut down four trees. A coffee shop. Fuckin' anywhere!
Re:The toll of dating app burnout by xenospn on Thursday September 01, 2022 @07:19PM (#32684653)
Trader Joe’s (i’m not kidding)