Re:Number of 'lonely, single' men is on the rise, says psych...
by mrguyorama on Monday August 15, 2022 @01:21PM
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Understanding that women have more "power" in dating apps isn't being an incel. You're only an incel when you choose to respond to current dynamics by hating women, blaming them for things, refusing to take responsibility for your side of the coin, and lashing out.
The people behind OKCupid were very open that women were having a much more successful time on dating apps. At least, until they were bought by tinder.
Reality is that the majority of men in dating apps get passed over while the majority of women in dating apps find dates but dislike them. I don't know how to fix the situation. You can't convince women to sign up for these apps without giving them a safe and self controlled environment, and when given the option they seem to pick roughly the same "top" 20% or so of men and then be unhappy with the resulting dates. I do not suggest they would be happier with the other 80% of men, we have our own issues too, we just don't get to go on dates. I personally found love through Bumble, so maybe the extra limits/self selection for that is the trick.
The people behind OKCupid were very open that women were having a much more successful time on dating apps. At least, until they were bought by tinder.
Reality is that the majority of men in dating apps get passed over while the majority of women in dating apps find dates but dislike them. I don't know how to fix the situation. You can't convince women to sign up for these apps without giving them a safe and self controlled environment, and when given the option they seem to pick roughly the same "top" 20% or so of men and then be unhappy with the resulting dates. I do not suggest they would be happier with the other 80% of men, we have our own issues too, we just don't get to go on dates. I personally found love through Bumble, so maybe the extra limits/self selection for that is the trick.