I've run into the same issues constantly throughout my life, especially when it comes to asking clarifying questions to get a grip on the situation. Something I'm going to do moving forward is first stating that I have a few questions that I need to ask to better understand the other's statement or question.

I think this sharing of my perspective may help the conversation to move forward in a more productive manner.

Thank you for putting this information out there! I hope it helps other people understand autistic communication and intentions a little bit better.