Also I think “get a counselor” is really overused advice that can be a lot less helpful than people think. I have had 5 therapists in my life (I clearly have a lot of problems haha) and all of them except the current one I would say were actively harmful to my mental health. I think I have had particularly bad luck and am an unusual case, but the generic advice glosses over the fact that finding a therapist who works for you is not an easy task, whether you can afford it or not. If someone is asking for advice with a specific problem online, I think it’s a lot more helpful to try to help than to tell them that they need to undertake what could be a months or years long process to find a therapist who works for them, and act like that’s easy.
Re:Ask HN: How do you motivate yourself to do your best work?
by poggies on Monday August 08, 2022 @04:18PM
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I'm going to reply with the correct thing that you might not like. The correct answer would be to go to a counselor and talk with them about the problem. I always argue that people should not try finding solutions to their mental struggles online, and with any type of medical stuff. I see that you earn a good buck, and I think that you can afford a couple of sessions. So, take some time to get the courage and start it.
Re:Ask HN: How do you motivate yourself to do your best work?
by JonShartwell on Wednesday August 10, 2022 @06:18PM
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I appreciate the advice, but I already see a therapist. Here I was looking more for perspectives from people with personal experience.
WRT imposter syndrome, I understand it’s very common but I don’t think it’s my current problem. Earlier in my career I did have this imposter feeling like “I don’t belong to be here with these people much smarter and more capable than me.” Now I feel like I have proven myself and I do deserve to be here, but I feel like I can’t motivate myself to live up to the potential I have. I.e. I want to do better work, and I feel like if I could motivate myself then I could, but I struggle to motivate myself. Maybe if I think more about why it is that I want to do better work then that will become a more powerful motivator for me.