> Perhaps this is my response to office gossip. But I'm talking about my coworker who regularly brags about corporal punishment and how he's a good father for hitting his kid on the regular.
Yeah, if its regular he's probably doing it wrong. In 16 years of parenting, I've smacked my kids a total of maybe 5 times.
> There's still a generation of parents who think that hitting their kids is the right response, be it from occasional spanking, or even wholesale beating them up to teach them a lesson.
I don't think physical punishment is the correct response to anything but physical violence, and even then it's a rare response and should be proportional.
I just don't think that it should be completely off the table as a response to physical violence. I also think the kid should know that it's on the table.
"Consequences for your actions" should mean something; the consequences should be proportional and similar to the actions.
"Consequences for your actions" should not mean "I lose TV if I hit my brother repeatedly when I am angry".
>Beating up kids / corporal punishment isn't about "self defense", but instead about "learned helplessness". Its a different strategy to parenting, and some people still believe in it.
It isn't about learning self-defense, it's about learning that even if they will never hit someone, they're living in a world where violence is never off the table. They need to be prepared for that.
Yeah, if its regular he's probably doing it wrong. In 16 years of parenting, I've smacked my kids a total of maybe 5 times.
> There's still a generation of parents who think that hitting their kids is the right response, be it from occasional spanking, or even wholesale beating them up to teach them a lesson.
I don't think physical punishment is the correct response to anything but physical violence, and even then it's a rare response and should be proportional.
I just don't think that it should be completely off the table as a response to physical violence. I also think the kid should know that it's on the table.
"Consequences for your actions" should mean something; the consequences should be proportional and similar to the actions.
"Consequences for your actions" should not mean "I lose TV if I hit my brother repeatedly when I am angry".
>Beating up kids / corporal punishment isn't about "self defense", but instead about "learned helplessness". Its a different strategy to parenting, and some people still believe in it.
It isn't about learning self-defense, it's about learning that even if they will never hit someone, they're living in a world where violence is never off the table. They need to be prepared for that.