This is the key difference.
It takes 60 seconds to fill and fuel tank, it takes 60 minutes (if you're lucky) to fill an EV.
One is an insignificant amount of time, relatively speaking.
The person you're replying to isn't making the right comparison; do we care about waiting/wasting 1 minute vs 60+ minutes?
I sure as shit do.
I mean, we kinda do when it comes to EVs.