> That... doesn't work for me? If you want to say no, just say no. If you want to say more, I'd be very grateful if you could tell me why not. I'm sure the magic phrases have made the author's professional career easier. Also I'm sure they made life worse for other people.

Ugh. You know, a lot of people on the Autism spectrum get professional coaching so they can successfully navigate a workplace environment. Some people can't say no politely, or at all. Please don't make them collateral damage to your anger.