This is most unfortunate but in proper district heating systems the scalding hot district circulation water never touches your house's heating / warm water. A heat exchanger is employed to insulate the different circulation systems. For example, my house has district heating and the warm water side is capped at +65C to protect against burns.

It's still pretty damn hot of course but I've never had any problems like you described, and I've lived in a dozen different houses in my city - all with district heating. Probably the system in the dormitory was somehow badly designed or incorrectly tuned.