I generally like both Doom and Spacemacs, but they are an additional, huge layer on top of an already complex and complicated editor/runtime/framework. They're great when they give you 99% of what you need, but pretty terrible once you have to start digging.
My dream config file is probably 10-20 lines of my actual preferences, not 40-60k lines on top of which I have to add another several hundred.
I understand the gripes though. Emacs really shines when you have a workflow that is poorly supported by mainstream tooling and you want to write your own. I don't know of any other editor that allows you to add keyboard shortcuts/commands/functionality that easily.