Re:Ask HN: What are the benefits to having children nowadays?
by programmarchy on Tuesday July 05, 2022 @12:33PM
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Why should seeking empathy be applauded? The value of having children and the value of having empathy are grounded in the same traditional morality. In discarding that tradition whether in part or in whole, there’s no reason to value empathy — it’s just another subjective belief some people hold.
Re:Ask HN: What are the benefits to having children nowadays?
by dspillett on Tuesday July 05, 2022 @12:46PM
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> Why should seeking empathy be applauded?
Because "I don't agree so you point of view is objectively wrong and I don't care to try understand it" is a far worse attitude?
> The value of having children and the value of having empathy are grounded in the same traditional morality
I can't say I agree with that at all. Apart from the superficial (they are both traditional/old ideals) what do you think is their common source?
To say we can't keep one old ideal because we question another seems unhelpfuly dogmatic, unless I'm missing some subtlety, and demonstrably wrong: large parts of society have moved away from some traditional ideals without having to abandon all others.
That doesn't make it wrong to ask why others make a different decision. Should seeking empathy not be applauded?
Yes, the question does imply, almost aggressively so, a certain bias, but perhaps it would be better if you were not to discourage the desire to understand by unnecessarily responding in kind.
[FWIW: I also have no intention of procreating, but I understand at least some of the reasons that many take the opposing view]