Connecting with others in civil ways is great. The two sides are not equivalent, though. "Batshit" left opinion: people should be able to require others to address them with novel pronouns. "Batshit" right opinion: liberals should be rounded up and shot (or the South was the noble side of the Civil War or segregation should be legal or Old Testament should be the law of the land, etc.). These are not in the same neighborhood of crazy, and this is setting aside the prevalence of the respective opinions and the political power of those who espouse them. Trump endorses the overthrow of democracy. Biden doesn't.

Promoting the both-sides falsehood could help bring the sides together, but it amounts to letting the looters keep their loot to stop the rioting.