Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, now I am opposite

Re:Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, no... by angarg12 on Tuesday June 14, 2022 @10:53AM (#31740406)

I've seen this pattern so many times in life it isn't even funny. An acquaintance hated her job and had to leave to be happy. Now she is on her 3rd job in 1.5 years and already thinking about leaving again. Somehow the next job will be perfect and will finally make her happy.

Pointing the obvious is seen as rude, negative or plain toxic, as some do here. Even just dropping hints is received with hostility. Honestly I've experienced no upside and only downside from trying to help people in such situations.

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Re:Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, no... by zepolen on Tuesday June 14, 2022 @05:29PM (#31746316)

Perhaps you're an idiot that keeps giving unwarranted advice and just wasting your time trying to help people that in the end will hate you for it?

Note, I am doing exactly what you were talking about, but with you.

I too, give blunt unwarranted advice, and don't give a single fuck if people hate me for it because their emotions cloud their judgement. I like to believe others that will read the advice from a 3rd party perspective, and if even a single person gets helped, it's ultimately worth it.

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Re:Thank HN: Five months ago, I was feeling like a loser, no... by daseiner1 on Tuesday June 14, 2022 @08:23PM (#31747726)

Calling someone an "idiot" isn't being blunt – it's just being an asshole.

signed, an asshole who frequently calls people idiots (generally not to their face, though)

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