Jobs was very, very much about doing things 'my way or the highway'. He was very much against people using options he didn't sanction.
EDIT: To be clearer, Jobs' rhetoric is "we offer an alternative", but the actions of Apple under Jobs was very much about crushing ideological opponents, much like RMS would like to do.
This isn't rocket science.
Stallman desires to take away my choice to create (and implicitly, to use) software that doesn't meet his ideological vision of "Free" software. I reject that desire in toto; I do not presume to tell other developers of software what restrictions they may place upon software they right, just as I reject their attempts to do the same to me.
(Stallman's inability to fulfill his desire does not exculpate him from the moral failure of that desire.)