I'm pretty flexible on some stuff - like exterior color, but I live in Texas, and yet all the stocked cars (of the type I want) come with a black interior. Same with the sunroof problem, if I want a high end trim, it comes with everything, so at that time it meant buying what is effectively comparatively a stripper if I dont want a sunroof.
The pandemic made it so they'd actually take my business, we negotiated the purchase contract at the time of order, and I got it without all of the stuff I didnt want.. like nitrogen air, tint, and the 'paint protection' BS. I did have two minor quality issues - the rear AC vent trim bit was not fully seated, I fixed that myself, the other one is the gas door sticks on, why? no idea - the dealer has tried a couple things, I've found cycling the opener 2-3 times opens it just fine.
Dealers AND auto makers don't like that because some people will place an order and then the next day cancel it. If the dealer instead puts them in a car that is "close enough" most people will keep the car even though it isn't perfect. They do lose customers like you who are very specific about what they want, but they gain more. (or so they think)