Re:Restarting my career after motherhood
by fnordpiglet on Sunday June 05, 2022 @04:30PM
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In America 32 hours is part time which loses all benefits, including child health care, and it’s a much more precarious position. Further there’s no career advancement possible. Also note most professional jobs 40 hours is the MINIMUM, with typical expectation being 50-60 and often includes travel - during which the parent at home has 100% responsibility.
I don’t know that it was depressing per se for my wife or me, it was what we wanted. And we would make the same choices again given the same options and outcomes. The negative side effects of the choices are mostly societal consequences and I think we would prefer society not make parenting a career damaging choice. There’s no benefit to anyone in the current model. But also it’s important to note in my case I make nearly 10x what my wife would. Most couples will have a tighter decision to make - but will usually pick the man even with a smaller differential due to tradition.
I don’t know that it was depressing per se for my wife or me, it was what we wanted. And we would make the same choices again given the same options and outcomes. The negative side effects of the choices are mostly societal consequences and I think we would prefer society not make parenting a career damaging choice. There’s no benefit to anyone in the current model. But also it’s important to note in my case I make nearly 10x what my wife would. Most couples will have a tighter decision to make - but will usually pick the man even with a smaller differential due to tradition.