Re:Confess your love with zero-knowledge
by mikebenfield on Friday June 03, 2022 @04:19PM
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I don't follow this, either logically or in practice.
Granted I've never dated as a gay man or as a lesbian, but from what I've observed it seems to me a much smoother and more mutual process than straight dating. I've even heard from bi men about how much easier and less stressful it is to date men than women. AFAICT when both parties are on a level playing field, and there's not a massive asymmetry in power, interest, and investment, there's a lot less grief overall.
> edit: I mean, isn't that Bumble?
Bumble is a valiant attempt to fix this issue but it seems to mostly be a failure. An average man may occasionally get a message (which will usually just say "hi"), but the asymmetry in interest is still there, and it's still mostly men's responsibility to do the real initiating.
Smart men would, who know their place in the world. Any of them are good enough for you, really. Take the one that you like the most out of the ones who like you. Is this a problem? If it weren't asymmetric, it would be hopeless. Instead, most men get the choice between one or more interested women, and most women get a response from one or more of the men they were interested in.
It's better if one side isn't as picky as the other. The other options are that only a couple of people match up at all, or everyone getting a response from everyone i.e. no signal at all.
edit: I mean, isn't that Bumble?