Not to discount women also scamming… I was thinking it’s probably a dude making a living blackmailing people online.

Yes. I know I'm an idiot.

I'm not calling you an idiot. If it's a scam, that gives you a little better direction on how to handle it.

I don't have direct experience dealing with this. But if it's a scammer, they're probably much less likely to leave you alone if they think there's any possibility of getting any more money from you.

I'll let others with a better understanding of this weigh in on how to navigate out of the scam.