The "solution" to this, in the run up to the '08 crisis, was for appraisers to "help out" by fudging their figure to make it match the sale price. I know this because a real estate agent whose husband was a loan officer, told me so. "I know they were just trying to help out with these new regulations, but it's had the unintended consequence that appraisers can't fudge their numbers slightly higher to match an offer that's only a couple percent above the natural appraisal, like they used to". LOL, yeah, the exact thing they were trying to accomplish was an "unintended consequence". Talk about not being able to understand something because your paycheck depends on it.
Possibly some appraisers in at least some markets have figured out ways around this, and are back to fudging numbers. I dunno.
My appraiser (on a refi) was walking around the house with me and basically asked what I thought the place was worth. That was what it appraised for. (The contract price on an original sale has the same property: what the buyer thought it was worth.)
Ideally those are tethered, but the appraisals didn’t give me a great sense of independence.
The point is, in a lot of markets, if you bailed on offers over this in the last couple years, you wouldn't be winning any bids in the first place, and wouldn't have been able to buy a house at all. The winning bids include guarantees that the buyer will cover the difference. If you won't do that, you'll lose to an all-cash offer from someone who will. If you're lucky, you won't be competing against superior offers that also waive all contingencies.
I have no idea where all these people are coming from with hundreds of thousands in cash and the ability to cover several thousand more on top of the appraisal value, but they seem to be involved in damn near every sale the last 2ish years. Given how many are OK waiving inspections and such, I have to assume they're institutional buyers who can spread that risk around, not individuals who could be ruined by that kind of thing.