I once heard that you're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time around and the older I get the more true that rings. I try to be _really_ particular with the communities I join and I have _no qualm_ removing either people from my communities or myself from theirs if I don't feel like we're helping each other; or more specifically if _I don't feel_ that _I am growing_ in the way _I want to grow_.

We should be kind to each other, for sure, regardless of what _Group_ we're in. Everyone should have equal access to their needs and desires. But. I am not _obligated to allow you to influence me_.