It's all good, glad it works for you. I found that for me, when I paid attention to the "shoulds" it was a bigger burden than it was worth for not much gain. Thus I learned it's best to filter them out in favor of messaging that is less preachy and more nuanced. It's a tradeoff, as inevitably I'll miss some good ones but overall it seems like a better way to allocate my attention.

Ymmv :)