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Re:Bits of advice I wish I had known by john567 on Friday April 29, 2022 @06:42AM (#31203538)
Completely agree. The littering is a no go for me.

But the idea that the bag is some reward and that you can lose some of it if you miss-behave and then maybe earn it back. That's reasonable.

I typically employ a progressive punishment in the form of a timeout. Go to your room for 5 minutes. If they don't respect that, it's 10 minutes up to 15 minutes. Culminating in: no iPad for you today.

Sometimes I ask them what the consequences for breaking the rules should be. And I get very reasonable suggestions.

Re:Bits of advice I wish I had known by lupire on Friday April 29, 2022 @07:53AM (#31203999)
Here's a 10x better way to do the same basic idea: get a bag of candy for yourself. and every 5 minutes they are well behaved, give them a piece.
Re:Bits of advice I wish I had known by john567 on Friday April 29, 2022 @08:36AM (#31204319)
I hate that the reward here is candy because I absolutely detest sugar. And in this scenario I'm conditioning my kids to eat candy when they do good.

I try to reward good behavior more so than I punish bad behavior. Things we're definitely simpler when they were younger but now they lie and make up stuff. I never lie or make stuff up. So, where does this behavior come from? And I never punish them for telling the truth.