> I need examples for each type of constraint I have but instead, the tools expect me to figure out everything based on very generic examples

if your problems can be attacked by LP / MIP type stuff, there's a book "model building in mathematical programming" by Williams that has a couple dozen different optimisation problems for a range of applications, with worked examples of how to formulate a model to solve each of them. each problem will be much less complex than your real-world optimisation puzzle but if you browse through the problem descriptions you might be able to match some against parts of your situation & get ideas for how Williams would model and optimise it.