Okay, so the response is, "You deserve to be hurt because you're harmful so shut up"?

Anyway,

You're twisting words to try to pretend that "woke scolding" exclusively means "asking people to stop one-sidedly hurting others for no real reason".

So I'll ask again in a narrower form that is harder to deliberately misinterpret:

Telling me I'm privileged (especially as a rationale for excluding me from certain groups at work or school) hurts me. It makes me angry and/or sad. What's your response?

I didn't tell you you were privileged.

I personally dislike the conversation around "privilege" since the word invokes an objective response, instead of the subjective one that's intended.

Worse, the whole concept of privilege is meant to be academic and thoughtful. Instead, it gets used as a weapon to dismiss opinions and belittle a speaker.

If a completely new word had been invented to describe the concept, I doubt the concept would illicit the reaction it does. But given the reactions people do have, I avoid it.

> The idea that one person saying "this hurts me please stop" is logically or morally equal to the person doing the harm

You are saying that a person saying "this hurts me" means that they are actually being harmed. I don't agree.

People frequently lie, usually with a motive.

And if you think words can cause harm, than perhaps you can see that the words "this hurts me" can be used to get what you want, your motive, and that can cause harm.