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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by s1artibartfast on Thursday April 14, 2022 @03:25PM (#31032064)
Some people just don't want to develop into an adult or be responsible parents. You can call this a development issue, but at some point it is also a problem of partner selection. If your partner has no interest in resolving their issues to your satisfaction, you are in for a rocky relationship continually dragging them Kicking and Screaming into something they do not want.

At some point, your partners development issue becomes your own partner selection and compatibility problem.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by coldtea on Friday April 15, 2022 @03:06AM (#31037327)
>Some people just don't want to develop into an adult or be responsible parents.

Yes. And it's fine to consider this a problem, and criticize them for it, is my point.

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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by s1artibartfast on Friday April 15, 2022 @03:31AM (#31037469)
If it's not impacting you, I don't really see the point in passing judgement or criticism. If it does impact you, I think you have to ask why you want to be with who doest share your goals. Forcing change on an unwilling partner is a loosing battle for all involved
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Re:A dirty dish by the sink can be a big marriage problem by coldtea on Friday April 15, 2022 @04:07PM (#31045152)
>If it's not impacting you, I don't really see the point in passing judgement or criticism.

It affects the behavior of the person, and thus others that had to deal with them - including me, if I'm unlucky enough. Societal criticism of bad personality traits is one of the forces keeping societies functional and habitable.

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