Thanks.
Rereading what I'd written sounded awkward, I guess I was trying to explain it was third hand information without being evasive/mysterious.
Didn't mean it as a complaint or even bad thing. Last time we saw each other he kept making incredibly racist comments about and even to my (nonwhite) wife and kid's face - it was the first time they'd even met!
> Last time we saw each other he kept making incredibly racist comments about and even to my (nonwhite) wife and kid's face - it was the first time they'd even met!
Well, that's certainly unfortunate. I honestly do not know how you can bridge a gap that wide.
Given the nature of this post, maybe consider working on this relationship and at least getting back to the point of talking to each other.