Not if his wife doesn't work.

Tell me you aren't raising an infant without telling me you aren't raising an infant, lol

If his wife doesn't work then the 30m of me time becomes even more costly and even more important to clear. Work is often the only reprieve from a very young child. The first year of our child, my favorite thing in the world was to go to work, no matter how shitty the task. The thirty minute commute alone was orgasmic, without the sound of a screaming colicky child unrelenting during day and night alike.

The absolute joy of being around other, quiet adults who will not cry and not need their diapers changed.

Your wife not working doesn't change that you're the dad when you're off work and would typically (I hope?) be involved in your children's education as well.

Parenting is work.

Parenting is not the kind of thing where you exchange your labor for money. It's not work in the sense that the parent comment meant it and you know that full well.

I tried to fire my mom once and it did not go as expected

I tried to fire my mom once when she asked for FANG level TC.

> Parenting is not the kind of thing where you exchange your labor for money.

Historically, that really is a big component of parenting. More children meant more money through additional hands being available to work the farm, etc.

Exactly. I know this now. I didn't before I had children.

Some parenting is fun but most is hard unforgiving work that might or might not reward you in the future.

The thing is it's not rewarding in the future, knowing you do hard work for a small being that you love was the reward for me.

> Not if his wife doesn’t work.

Marketable work and childcare aren’t the only kinds of work done within a family.