Without understanding the OPs situation I would hesitate from giving advice. It’s really difficult to understand the root cause of peoples situations without knowing more about them.
Advice can be given at face value, and advice can be taken that way as well.
I suppose I should add a disclaimer, in case this wasn’t already implied: you don’t have to take any advice from other people.
> I don't have fun with my kids.
I think that’s a serious problem. Personally, I would prioritize that over all the studying and activities. They are kids. Fun is their job.
> I can't even play computer games when I want to because my kids take too darn long to finish their homework
Let them do their homework on their own, and you can play some games. It’s not your homework, let them do it.
Or just play games instead of the reading you don’t enjoy.
People, they’ll be fine without all the activities. Go out and have some fun together.