Look at your experience in the worst possible way - because that is how hiring companies may see you. You stopped coding, so your are rusty at best. You haven't had a job in 4-5 years. You have no actual managerial experience. So to hire you as a manager, they basically would be giving someone with 5 years of rust on them a shot at doing a job they have never done. That is why they are giving the jobs to other people.

I know that take on your history is unfair. But the question you need to answer is how to fix that perception? Did you lead people when freelancing? Did you manage budgets and payroll? Were you accountable for business results? If so, show those things in your resume.