Re:Ask HN: If you used to be socially awkward and shy, how d...
by hanedot10 on Sunday March 27, 2022 @07:24AM
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I could reply to this for hours and wish you the best.
I will say, I am in my 40s and so what I will share now is different than I would have 20 years ago and would probably share 20 from now but.
- Self-improvement is a good thing to aspire to, improve the things that prevent you from having what you want. But realize there is a tax to this.
- Own it. It's ok to be socially awkward and shy. There are jobs, lifestyles, communities and passions that suit those of us with these traits.
No-one is happy being someone who they are not. So, even if you change the characteristics you currently have to get to a different place, know that it could ultimately make you less happy when you get there if you are not true to yourself.
I will say, I am in my 40s and so what I will share now is different than I would have 20 years ago and would probably share 20 from now but.
- Self-improvement is a good thing to aspire to, improve the things that prevent you from having what you want. But realize there is a tax to this. - Own it. It's ok to be socially awkward and shy. There are jobs, lifestyles, communities and passions that suit those of us with these traits.
No-one is happy being someone who they are not. So, even if you change the characteristics you currently have to get to a different place, know that it could ultimately make you less happy when you get there if you are not true to yourself.