You’re over complicating it. If you *want* kids then have them. That’s perfectly reasonable. If you’re in you thirties and have the adult basics down you’re ready for kids. Kids are hard work but also they’re cute and add a lot of joy to life. They also put your own personal goals and other peoples goals in perspective. The other day in a meeting with my child’s teacher I was so proud that had to wipe away the tears. I don’t get that feeling from my personal achievements.