I'm sorry to hear about your experiences in tech. As a federal employee, I know there is a huge push right now to hire a lot of people, and increasing our diversity in STEM roles is a concurrent goal. These jobs won't pay as well as typical tech jobs, but the job security is unmatched and the work life balance is very generous. I was going to link a few specific jobs, but I'll just suggest looking at usajobs and putting in some keywords that you are interested in.

E.g. https://www.usajobs.gov/Search/Results?k=javascript