There are some human bonds that I consider emotionally harmful, fruitless, subpar, sad.. and most of free fun sexuality ends up there. I don't hear the words I care about when people talk about sex these days. Now as others said, people do what they want and if it's not harmful to any parties involved so be it.
[0] I lack the words to stress how much this is intimate and personal. Now to each his own brain, some people might have very few emotional attachment, I'm not like this.
> I lack the words to stress how much this is intimate and personal. Now to each his own brain, some people might have very few emotional attachment, I'm not like this
So are you a robot then? Wherever you are from, your mind is a product of your influences and local culture and customs, just as much as it is also a product of your schooling and your family life. Given that we humans just absolutely love to meddle in the love lives of others, I can promise you that some of that cultural training includes guidance on how to structure your romantic relationships, and it almost certainly proscribes one man and one woman.
Unless you have spent a considerable amount of time examining these beliefs and have specifically chosen to reject the ones that your society has given you, I would argue that your brain is very much not your own in that sense.
If the opposite were true then things like propaganda would have a much harder time existing. We would have a perfect, rational world society that I dearly wish existed. Appeals to emotion would fall on deaf ears! How amazing that would be!
Instead we have entire countries full of people that live or die because of "cultural differences" aka the shit that society pollutes your mind with. One might argue that we are watching that play out with Ukraine vs Russia right now.
> Stop, you have no idea about my personal life.
You told me how you feel, so I do in fact have a small tidbit of information on your personal life
Maybe I've just traveled to much, and I have certainly rolled my eyes at some of my less informed countrymen, but I have a hard time believing people could think that our culture is somehow a baseline.
I agree that we project our culture a ton, and I really wish we wouldn't. It's so annoying to try and share something cultural with a foreign friend only to find out they already know and have opinions about it because they saw it on Friends
Of course the consistent reaction of Americans to the use of terms like "USians" is a big giveaway to the fact that there's a national identity and thus culture. As, I guess, is the habit of down-playing of any such thing lol.
I'm sorry to insist, I had the displeasure to be off rail from the norm on extreme levels. Even deep introspection about norms and cultures would not register on a graph compared to the event that I had to go through.
I fail to describe more in details, but you're looking at the wrong layer, I'm talking about psychiatry/neurology levels, not social constructs.
Personally I wonder what raw human sexuality looks like before society tamed it into what it is today. From an anatomical perspective, there are clues suggesting that humans mated with group sex far more often than they do today (like the shape of the glans on a penis being as such because it is good at scraping out another partner's semen), and anthropologically, where other primates mate in (sometimes coercive) groups.
In fact the anthropological case for monogamy is incredibly mixed, as the animal kingdom practices a wide variety of relationship styles.