Seriously though. When he says "ignore politics" it doesn't mean you get to live without them happening. It means you get to decide not to care. Getting the reply doesn't mean you don't get to ignore it.

Everyone gets to decide not to care. I'm in a marginalized group and temporarily suspending caring is the primary coping mechanism for the stress political fights in, around, and about the group can cause.

It's not like I'm in a warzone where every moment is a struggle at the precipice of failure. While our progress will take continued dedication that I do feel obligated to lend my time to, I can let my guard down the vast majority of the time.