Yeah some question of "hey did you try the docs, if so what were you missing?" or something would go a long way. In this case, the Python tooling had been previously good enough that I started slash work poking around in the IDE. When I couldn't find anything, I went into my bookmarks and what docs I had didn't have any kind of banner or other warning that the project had been abandoned. It was only when I went looking for a blog or some sort of news source from the project that I found myself looking at the repo readme. The only indication that the project was dead was a small blurb at the top of the readme which you could easily skim past if you were looking for something specific. I tried to raise this point to them that the status of the project is not obvious and requires reading a dramatic gist ("moles in discord") to understand and yeah that wasn't received well. This whole time I was handling myself like I would a team at work that I'm not familiar with, very professional and objective. I didn't leave in some flurry of insults either.

Regarding pseudo-official servers, I imagine Discord wants a beat and handle on the community but ultimately the way the business has to move and make decisions is not compatible with how these people behave in public.