Users are much too quick to assume that someone they don't like on the internet is a bot, spy, shill, astroturfer, foreign agent, you name it. This is pretty much the most common thing people throw at each other in online arguments. That's why we don't allow it here—see https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html. If you or anyone thinks they have evidence of abuse, they should send it to [email protected] so we can look into it. Plenty of past explanation is at https://hn.algolia.com/?sort=byDate&dateRange=all&type=comme.... For example, https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=27398725 is one in-depth post on the topic.
Btw, pointing a finger at others isn't a great way to respond when asked to stop breaking the site guidelines. I know emotions are running high, but that applies to everyone, and unless I'm mistaken you have a history of breaking the site guidelines here and being banned for it, and that tends to lead to getting banned again unless you take conscious steps to fix it.
And in case it helps at all, none of that means that I don't feel for your situation.